Oh, life sometimes is so much easier when we can blame others for “what happens” or “what we feel” or even “why we feel”. It’s called the “Blame Game”. The problem with blaming others is that it can often leave you powerless and without you even realizing it. You need to let go of blame because it changes nothing. It doesn’t matter anymore to the situation at hand. The bad feelings you may have, due to a particular circumstance, may leave you feeling sad and even bitter. So ask yourself “what have I gained??
Is it possible that you are contributing to the situation in some way? If so, you can change that. You always have options. Take responsibility, own it, acknowledge it, and then let it go. Make the necessary changes that work for you. When you continue to feel dismal and the other person has already shown they’re not prepared to do anything about the situation, then you are just fueling their fire by holding on to the hurt or grudge. Holding on to anger and bitterness is also very toxic to your self being. It serves no purpose.
Be the change you wish to be. Such a popular question to ask yourself: Would you rather be right or be happy? It’s not as easy to answer as it might first appear, and that’s why people so commonly get stuck. While blaming others is a passive activity, it also is one that saps your energy without giving anything back. Resolving those hurts and creating different kinds of healing experiences is key to taking back your power and allowing you to move on with your life, while being in control. You don’t want the past to control the present, or even the future.
All your feelings may be legitimate. It’s important to feel them fully, and then move on. Focus first on what you feel, and then focus on what you can constructively do. That’s where the empowerment comes in. Leave the rest to “Karma”. Karma is powerful and has a tendency to work in mysterious ways.
Keep your heart open to receive love, and let the blame go..