Life itself; everyday is a learning experience. Circumstances and situations occur; which causes life as you know it to shift. It may cause feelings to change and that’s okay. Sometimes we change out of necessity, sometimes out of desire.
Every situation, challenge or relationship has hidden messages and it’s up to you to figure out what they are and address each one of them. That’s part of your self-awareness, which is important to your everyday existence.
Knowing how and what you feel about any situation should be a priority in your life. Knowing what you have control over, and tuning into your feelings is also part of your self-awareness. Know your limits and what pushes your buttons or what stresses you out. By doing so, it allows you to set boundaries that work for you and setting those boundaries is a sign of self-respect.
When you are feeling uncomfortable in a situation, or you feel that someone has crossed the line with you, it shows a lack of respect on their part. It’s okay to be direct and speak your mind, in a positive way and without feeling guilty about it. Give yourself permission to let them know where you draw the line and make them aware of your boundaries, respectfully. Remember that people are not mind readers, and your voice needs to be heard. If they can’t respect your “space” then you may have to distance yourself from them. What good is a relationship of any sorts without respect anyway?
Setting boundaries is a skill and like any other skill, it requires practice. It’s a process. You’re not going to wake up one morning and have a new mindset ready to go. Take time and allow yourself to search deep in your heart, to hear what it’s saying to you. Honor your feelings, and others will follow, with your direction.
A famous and very mindful quote by Mandy Hale
“It is necessary, and even vital, to set standards for your life and the people you allow in it.”