Do you ever feel like other people are in control of your life? Do you ever feel that the decisions or choices you make are made from obligation or guilt? Well, if the answer is “Yes” then you need to take control. You are in the driver’s seat!
By being in control of your life, you can deal with stress more effectively and handle life changes, while developing healthy optimism. It also means getting in touch with your values, setting meaningful goals and identifying your vision. There are so many outside influences at times, that it’s easy to lose sight of what’s most important to you. That’s not to say that you shouldn’t listen to the advice of others, but it does mean when making decisions concerning your life, it should be just that. Your decision!
Identify your core values and decide what motivates you. You might make a list of your top 5 things that you value most. Once you’ve done that, set achievable goals for yourself. Start small, and build. The key word here is “achievable”. Remember that setting goals are worthless if you don’t take action. Do what you feel needs to be done. You make a judgment call on what works best for you in any particular situation. Follow through. It doesn’t matter what it is you are working on. It’s what’s most important to you. It can be personal self esteem, relationships with others, or even work related. It can be anything that requires you to make a choice or a decision. You get to choose!
By setting and achieving your goals set forth, you build higher self esteem and you create self discipline, which also builds confidence. When you have self confidence, you are more likely to trust your own judgment. Then you are able to make decisions and choices that serve your best interest. This also allows you to continue to have control over your life. When you believe in and trust yourself and have enough desire, self-discipline comes easily.
Have faith in yourself and you will feel good about your accomplishments. Only you can control your future. It’s your life.